Exit

It feels weird, awkward to have left the things I cherished most. And the fact that I did it, just kills me. Did I feel the pain, yes sir, more than I had imagined. Why do people have to be so complex, even if things are not fine, can't they just give a hug and tell the other person things would be fine, just hold on, have patience. I know I haven't been what you wanted me to be, but I promise I shall try. Why people give up so easily, I didn't, and they know it. Why can't someone fight for me, even a bit. I do not know, probably I'll never get to know.

Be the Girlfriend - The Art of Thinking Out of the Box

People always get amazed when they see something they have never seen before, something which is truly new and fresh. Such an idea, product or act compels us to admire the person behind it. And we often end up asking how they even think about such a thing, how can they; how to think out of the box when the bloody box is so big? I agree, the box is big, and as always we are used to it, comfortable in it, so how do we start if we need to generate an out-of-the-box idea.

That’s where the girlfriend comes in; no, I am not asking you to find a girlfriend. (By the way, if you seriously don’t have one, stop reading and just go and get one first, dude). So it is crazy to even think that girlfriends can have any relation with such an issue. Well there is, and I am going to tell you how in the following few steps that are quick and easy, I assure you.

Be the Complaining ‘Bitch’ Girlfriend – Yes, that’s the first step! I am sure you must have experienced this, how a girl initially finds a guy so perfect and then after some time starts to complain about one thing or the other. Do it. I know you like the box, but if you want to think out of the box regarding a particular idea, issue or product, complain and ask yourself what you don’t like in it. At this point it is very important to note that you do not start thinking about what you want, just keep thinking various things you don’t like. Just as I said, be the complaining bitch girlfriend.

The Break-Up – We all know what happens when the rate and quantity of a girlfriend’s complaints cross all limits, yes the break up. So who am I to change the law of nature? It is actually time for a break up. Once you have done all the complaining part, break up with the box in which/with which you were so comfortable, and you have enough reasons (complaints) to do so as well. Stop thinking of the box, ignore it (as our elders said Ignorance is Bliss), trust me it is bliss, just do it. Give yourself some time to ignore the box, just as it takes time to come out of a break up. Once you have mastered ignoring the box, comes the third and last step.

Find a New One – After break ups, I don’t think girls remain single for long, there is always someone better than the previous one. That’s what you have to do, look for the new box, take all the complaints which you kept bombarding the older box with, keep thinking and keep looking, the new box is not that far. It has always been there, you just needed to go through the journey before you actually noticed it. I will not say that this step is easy, and if you noticed I never asked you to think what kind of box you need, no that would be a mistake. I never asked you to do this because I wanted your brain to think, not search. Thinking is important, way more important than searching for an answer. Let your brain take its time, and trust me you will come up with that out-of-the-box idea you were looking for.

This is how the brain works in the last step - it takes all your previous experiences, all of it, irrespective of whether it is related to the issue at hand or not, then it takes all the complaints for which you left the old box and kept looking for an answer, like a mathematical iteration it slowly does everything, and the end result is exactly what you wanted, an out-of-the-box idea. So now you know what to do when the need arises, just be a complaining girlfriend forever. Good Luck!